Know Your Life.....as it goes by (concluding part)

Ah….the concluding part of the series "Know your life…as it goes by", and yet it makes me wonder why do the most important lessons come at the last ?? makes me remember the quote "Life is a harsh teacher, you fall in the ditch much before you wonder why", but again, aint it life’s way of telling us look son, if you fall in the ditch again, accept that you dint learn the last time, rather than telling people that you dint fall in, but u in the ditch to measure its depth.

If the last parts (of this series) were read seriously and they made sense then this is something that will come across as a memory flashback to most people out there. The discussion in this very important piece will start from addiction to people, to moving on and evolving yourself into a complete individual.

If I were to assume a role of a psychologist for just one second and showed you a picture of the alphabet "C", what will be the first thing that comes to your mind…common common, think about it before you read further. I see it as an incomplete "O", two C’s make one O, and thats the way most people look at two people coming together, they fit each other perfectly, or so it seems, atleast for a while ! Now the contradiction, I believe, that we should be a complete O before we meet another O. If that did not make sense, let me explain, when two C’s come together to make an O they form an O out of dependency, call it a symbiotic relationship, they feed of each other, what one lacks is "complimented" by the other, firstly it starts of as a selfless act and expectations are never solid to be disillusioned. As time progresses the expectations turn to taken for granted status and then the power struggle begins, with people not realizing most of the times that this was what brought them together in the first place. So, I propose that we become a complete O first within ourselves so that we can get together with another O to form O2 (metaphorically speaking o’course) , which is the essence of our existence here.

To become a complete O in yourself, start by knowing people, feel them, and give all you can, I have often quoted a holy book "True gain is giving", when you do this you will feel your emotions on a much deeper level. People tend to get attracted to other people that they lookup to, or people they are looking to like. Love everyone that comes your way, it may sound utopian, but mould this into "Love everyone you love as equal", roughly translated, it says that as a child love your parents and siblings as equal, as a young adult love all your friends equal, as an adult love all your soul mates equal. Even if you do not like someone’s presence, excuse yourself from disliking them, if you cannot love them, its ok, but don’t hate them.

Addiction to people, often leads to the void inside of us expanding as we continue to feed of them even more as time goes on. A feeling often experienced is that of missing a loved one when they lose touch or you realize that your love is dependent on their reciprocating, who says love wants something in return, is it not the truest form self expression, "if you love ….u love …period" , you cannot stop loving anyone, this is the love experienced when two O’s come together to form an O2. Maybe my illustrations are weak, but try visualizing if u "loved" someone, do you love them now ?? If you love someone right now, can you see yourself in love with them after some time ? If there is an iota of doubt, STOP. You need to evolve yourself. That is what we discuss in the next part.


Evolving yourself is something you need to keep doing. As they say "It’s the journey not the result that is fruitful". Look at yourself in the mirror, and see your eyes, can u see yourself getting lost, it’ll seem very difficult at first, but then try loosing focus when you are looking at yourself :). You will keep getting lost among stories from your past. The day you can enter into "blankness" is the day you can see yourself in the mirror and see a truer you. A you that answers everything you have done and has the ability to love someone in a sense much greater than you ever experienced.

Just concluding with "Let go Let go Let go, because only when you do not look will you find love "

Please let me know how you felt about this series, and please be extra generous in pointing out my mistakes and misapprehensions

I dedicate this to a very sweet friend …Nidhi you know why this dedicated to you, and that is snuff for me. You have bestowed me with something very very precious, your responsiveness on my blog, and your attitude towards an unknown, unseen , unheard person.. May god bless you always, and I hope that you have what it takes to become a complete O.

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